What is bottom in gay community

Wearing oversized sweatshirts that go past your hands. Your phone always dying. Being confused for a woman when on the phone. Wanting someone to come and rescue you. But what does this identity actually consist of? Contrary to the stereotype that all gay men are urbane sophisticates with a tendency to reel off epigrams about the deceptive nature of appearances, gay humour today is mostly comprised of jokes about burrito-induced diarrhoea.

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This kind of harassment in TikTok videos like these is called "bottom shaming. Verses or switches are what they sound like — people who like to top and bottom interchangeably during sex. Verse folks are generally less concerned with labeling themselves and their sexual dynamic and more focused on keeping their sexual interactions fluid, though some verses do lean towards the top or bottom side of the spectrum.

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While top-bottom terminology is mostly associated with gay men, queer women employ the terms, too. Though a survey by queer site Autostraddle found that most queer women identify as switches rather than tops or bottoms. What does it mean to top as a queer woman? It could involve fingering, performing oral sex, or using a strap-on for penetration, among many other fun sexy time things.

Top/Bottom

In this bilateral signification system a tattoo or piercing on the left side of the body indicates that the wearer identifies as a top, whereas a visual cue worn on the right side of the body indicates that the wearer prefers to act as a bottom. For example, a gay man with a tattooed armband on his left arm or a piercing in his left ear or nipple visually signifies his preference to act as a sexual penetrator or top, whereas a man wearing similar visual cues on the right side signifies a preference to be sexually penetrated, or to bottom.